Love, as much as you desire.

oday I would like to talk about polyamory. I have met people who have shared their experiences and views with me. I also found interesting articles that I share with you here.

Before I started this research in May 2019, I didn’t even know the term “polyamory” and honestly didn’t allow myself to think that I could have a romantic relationship with more than one person. Although it also happened to me that I fell in love with other people while I was in a relationship… but quickly I repressed these feelings, I didn’t want to let them. Since then I find it incredibly exciting because it contains so many areas that I have to deal with and rethink: communication and trust in a love relationship, feelings and sexual life and the most challenging: How do I live the polyamorous love model or any other form beside of monogamy in a society that still conveys monogamy as the ideal of a love relationship?

What is polyamory? – (because I find the definition quite appropriate, I took it from the “StadtBESTEN Freiburg”)

Polyamory is about open and honest communication and the possibility of having as many relationships as you want. Everything takes place with the consent of the participants. Polyamory clearly distinguishes itself from free love and open relationships because it is about serious romantic love relationships and not just physical ones.

Definition taken from https://freiburg.stadtbesten.de.

Video Translation ENG:

I believe a large part of the population lives differently than society thinks of them. When I talk about concepts like polyamory, I don’t mean to categorise, but rather to show that there are other possibilities. I would like to name it to encourage you to finally stop this game of hide-and-seek and stand by how you want to live love.

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In the polyamory-three-part of the StadtBESTEN Freiburg you can read answers to questions about polyamory by 8 people from Freiburg

Part One

Part Two

Part Three

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Video Translation ENG:

Human being’ is not monogamous by nature. The model of the two-way relationship has existed for about 20,000 years. My question now is: Does this model still fit into today’s world? How do we come to a happy partnership and a fulfilling sexuality today? And for this I discovered the documentary on ZDF, it is an episode of MAKE LOVE in which new paths in love are explored. It questions the currents of time and searches for new recipes for great love. I was particularly interested in the term “negotiation morality” instead of “prohibition morality”, i.e. the partners renegotiate their relationship model, i.e. how they want to experience love and how they set their individual limits.They do not orient themselves any longer so strongly after social norms.

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To watch:
In the first episode on 29 August at 22:45, “New Ways to Love”, MAKE LOVE is dedicated to modern and traditional relationship models, questioning current models and searching for recipes for great love. Well worth a watch.