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video: https://www.dropbox.com/s/u7ixgnf8imwma05/missing%20someone.m4v?dl=0
In this video I deal with the strong feeling that arises when you can’t be with your partner. Long-distance relationships often suffer from exactly this feeling…. I filmed it on the toilet of the ICE to Dresden. I often observe people with tears in their eyes saying goodbye at train stations. Heavy embraces and tender touches with soft words are so often to be seen. In the same way I perceive people running into each other’s arms when a train arrives, I wonder: how long were they separated? A few days? A few months? Or even a few years?
Have you ever had a long-distance relationship or are you even living in one? How do you deal with the desire to hold your partner in your arms, to feel close to you? I’m thankful for any comments…
Sex without love is imaginable for many, love without sex on the other hand hardly... I have met Manuela, her experience about sex and love are the trigger of my following thoughts... Is love possible without sex? Or is that just part of it? She doesn't want to sleep with him. But he wants to sleep with her. She loves him. He loves her and can't just lie next to her without touching her. When he touches her skin, his whole body trembles. He and she have been together for eight years. Not always in a relationship. What is a relationship? When would you talk about a relationship? What do you do when you just don't have a need for sex, but your partner does? The beginning of cheating? Or the beginning of an opening to another form of relationship, such as polyamory, i.e. the love of several partners? Everything is just a question of agreements and negotiations? Don't fears of loss and jealousy automatically arise? I believe that openness and honesty are the most important basis. Everything is based on this. I must be able to leave myself, then I can trust, I can deal better with the truth. I think the worst thing is when you have distrust and don't feel honestly treated. You have the constant feeling that your partner is not telling the truth and cheating on you, doing something behind your back. That doesn't feel good and you become justifiably jealous, your need for control increases and voilà: already you are in the vicious circle of reproaches...how to get out? I think we should make less demands on our partner for power, that doesn't work in connection with love. It is better to put more energy and love into oneself, to recognise and appreciate oneself. Then you discover that you also have the need for freedom, you do not want to be a possession. Then it may be easier to understand that you value your counterpart and that is the basis for love agreements.
She doesn't want to sleep with him. But he wants to sleep with her. She loves him. He loves her and can't just lie next to her without touching her. When he touches her skin, his whole body trembles. He and she have been together for eight years. Not always in a relationship. What is a relationship? When would you talk about a relationship? What do you do when you just don't have a sex need, but your partner does? The beginning of cheating? Or the beginning of an opening to another form of relationship, such as polyamory, i.e. the love of several partners? Everything just a question of agreements and negotiations? Don't fears of loss and jealousy automatically arise? I believe that openness and honesty are the most important basis. Everything is based on this. I must be able to leave myself, then I can trust, I can deal better with the truth. I think the worst thing is when you have distrust and don't feel treated honestly and you have the constant feeling that your partner is not telling the truth and cheating on you, doing something behind your back. That doesn't feel good and you become justifiably jealous and your need for control increases and voilà: already you are in the vicious circle of reproaches...how to get out? I think we should make less demands on our partner for power, that doesn't work in connection with love. It is better to put more energy and love into oneself, to recognize and appreciate oneself. Then you discover that you also have the need for freedom, you do not want to become possessed. Then it may be easier to understand that you value your counterpart and that is the basis for love agreements.
She doesn't want to sleep with him. But he wants to sleep with her. She loves him. He loves her and can't just lie next to her without touching her. When he touches her skin, his whole body trembles. He and she have been together for eight years. Not always in a relationship. What is a relationship? When would you talk about a relationship? What do you do when you just don't have a sex need, but your partner does? The beginning of cheating? Or the beginning of an opening to another form of relationship, such as polyamory, i.e. the love of several partners? Everything just a question of agreements and negotiations? Don't fears of loss and jealousy automatically arise? I believe that openness and honesty are the most important basis. Everything is based on this. I must be able to leave myself, then I can trust, I can deal better with the truth. I think the worst thing is when you have distrust and don't feel treated honestly and you have the constant feeling that your partner is not telling the truth and cheating on you, doing something behind your back. That doesn't feel good and you become justifiably jealous and your need for control increases and voilà: already you are in the vicious circle of reproaches...how to get out? I think we should make less demands on our partner for power, that doesn't work in connection with love. It is better to put more energy and love into oneself, to recognize and appreciate oneself. Then you discover that you also have the need for freedom, you do not want to become possessed. Then it may be easier to understand that you value your counterpart and that is the basis for love agreements.
Susanna was three years together with Ben. They lived a long distance relationship. She left him in 2011 when she found out, she is not his only girlfriend. In the following audio track I read you a page of her diary she sent me (it's from 21.03.2009). They were having a lot of fights but in the moment she wrote that page she was believing again in this very special relationship...
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Frank was sitting next to me in a café in the streets of Marseille. I was curious why he tattooed l o v e on his fingers. So I asked him... listen to his answer: